Why Romani engagement ceremonies look like weddings

But are actually not.

A new bride welcomed into the family and tribe during an engagement ceremony | February 2025

The beating of drums that dwarfs all noise from the city around you. The entire tribe gathering - people from several neighborhoods coming in. Decorations, food preparations, the women all in one room hours in advance to do each other’s hair and exchange and try on clothes.

And above all, the bride and groom - to-be. He is in a suit, she: in a traditional gown and professional make up and hair.

Outsiders know, when they hear drums and see a crowd, it’s a Romani wedding. And it does look and feel exactly like a wedding.

But it’s not.

What is the difference?

A traditional Romani wedding takes place over three days and nights; the bride changes three gowns, one for each day, carrying specific symbolism.